TOMKAT CODE OF CONDUCT
LAST UPDATED: March 28, 2026
At TOMKAT, we want to encourage an open and inviting atmosphere for everyone. To help ensure this, we have a set of rules (the “Code of Conduct”) we require all Attendees to follow.
Please note that any violation of the rules below will result in consequences such as, but not limited to: a formal verbal and/or written warning, suspension from subsequent event(s), being banned from all future event(s), and/or immediate ejection and removal from the event and premises.
No refunds will be given to any persons removed from the event under these circumstances.
1. All attendees must be at least 19 years of age at the time of the event.
2. Respect
Respect all individuals at TOMKAT.
Discrimination of any sort will not be tolerated at TOMKAT. This includes transphobia, homophobia, ageism, racism, sexism, body shaming, etc.
No touching (spanking, hugging, tickling, diaper checks, or anything else that makes contact with another person) without having their consent to do so prior.
If someone asks you to leave them alone, respect that. Just because one person is having physical contact with an individual does not imply permission for all to have physical contact. Ask first.
Be respectful when speaking to and about others. Be mindful of your words and pronouns. If you cannot say something nice, say nothing at all.
Common areas should allow attendees to maintain a little headspace if they wish to. Please limit controversial or intense adult topics (example: wars, political discussions, etc.) to other areas such as private tents, trails, etc.
Respect the property of those around you.
Don’t use, take, or eat anything that doesn’t belong to you and isn't communal. If you’d like to use something, please ask. If you aren't sure if something is for communal use from TOMKAT, please ask.
If you damage someone’s property please let them know immediately. You are also responsible for making amends and/or replacing it.
Respect the venue.
Clean up after yourself. Pick up your trash and empties.
Please clean up your dishes, drinks and empties between communal meals, especially in evenings and mornings.
Dispose of dirty diapers properly in the designated areas.
Dispose of cigarettes properly. Do not throw them on the ground.
If you damage the venue or see damages to the venue, you must immediately alert an organizer. The person who damaged the property is responsible for the repairs.
Respect the surrounding community.
Please drive slowly and responsibly.
The road to camp is a rural dirt road with children, ATV's, elderly, animals, and farm equipment. The speed limit is 40 km/hr, but often, one should go slower.
The speed limit on the driveway to camp is 10 km/hr. Moose, other oncoming vehicles, and people are often travelling on the driveway. Please drive with caution.
TOMKAT is a private event. Please use discretion. When leaving the property during TOMKAT you will respect the surrounding community and neighbours, and not bring unwanted attention to TOMKAT.
3. Privacy
All information regarding events, scenes, participants, or conversations are to be held in strict confidence. Breaching event confidentiality may result in consequences, up to and including legal action.
Do not share information about any attendee to others unless given explicit permission by that attendee. This includes telling that attendee's friends, partner, or family unit. Not everyone is fully out to people.
4. Photography
Personal Photos and Video:
Do not take pictures, videos, or audio recordings without receiving consent from everyone in the scene first. Not sure? Ask!
No photos or videos should be posted anywhere or shared with anyone without the explicit consent from all those in said pictures or videos.
Public video calls from the event are forbidden as someone walking through a public area has not given permission to have their image shared. If you wish to go to a private area such as your own tent, that is allowed.
TOMKAT Photographers:
Marked TOMKAT photographers may be taking photos throughout the event. Their photos will be turned into the board for editing following the event. Photos will be edited properly, as per written permissions of each attendee.
If, at any time you do not feel comfortable with being photographed or recorded, you reserve the right to ask the photographer to stop and delete the content. The photographer is required to respect all such requests immediately.
5. Substance Use
Alcohol
Alcohol should be consumed responsibly. Drunk, disorderly, or belligerent behaviour is frowned upon, and may result in disciplinary action, including being asked to depart the event.
Please dispose of empties properly. There are recycling bins and bags located around the property.
Smoking/Vaping
Smoking and vaping of any kind is permitted only in the designated smoking area or in the confines of your own tent or trailer. All butts and empty cartridges must be disposed of appropriately.
Cannabis
Smoking cannabis follows the same rules as smoking nicotine
Overindulgence is discouraged and inappropriate behaviour may lead to consequences.
The use of any other substances or illegal drug are prohibited on Fox Haven property.
6. Cabins
No outdoor shoes shall be worn in the cabins.
From 9:00am to 11:00pm, the living room areas are available to the public for activities.
If you are hanging out in the cabin, please respect those that paid for indoor accommodation. If it’s after 11pm, you may be asked to leave.
PLEASE pick up after yourself before departing for the night.
7. Water Safety
Life jackets are required to be worn when going out in any water vessel.
Consumption of alcoholic beverages is prohibited when out on the water.
You must let someone know you are going out in a water vessel, and sign out when leaving. When you return, please sign back in. The sheet for signing out is located in the great room of Fort Fabulous.
You are required to take a boat safety kit with you when departing in a water vessel.
If you go swimming you must have at least one other person there, either in the water with you or watching from by the dock.
No swimming after dark.
Please remove diapers prior to swimming and dispose of them properly.
8. Kitchen and Food Preparation
The kitchen is open to all so long as meals are not being prepared. Refer to the schedule or an organizer for more details.
When meals are being prepared, the kitchen is OFF LIMITS to all not involved in preparation. For those staying in the main cabin, you must ask permission to pass through the kitchen should you need something in your room.
The fridge is for communal meal food only. All personal food must be stored either indoors or in vehicles. There are bears in the area so please be mindful of food storage and disposal.
If you use the kitchen, please clean up after yourself immediately, including dishes.
All attendees are expected to help with the preparation and/or cleaning up of at least two meals. A sign-up will be done prior to the event.
Be sure to check the list of what can be burned, recycled, or composted.
9. Nudity
Nudity is welcome on the Fox Haven property, except for in cooking and eating areas.
If you choose to go without clothing, please place a towel down before sitting on any common surfaces including picnic tables, communal lawn chairs, and indoor seating.
10. Messy Diapers
Messy diapers are permitted with the following limitations to respect other attendees:
Messing or being messy is only permitted in the presence of others who have consented.
Changes must be done either in the changing tent, your own tent or camper, a washroom, or away from other groups of attendees.
All indoor spaces and cooking areas are strictly off-limits while messy.
You must dispose of the soiled diaper in an outdoor disposal area immediately after a change.
For those with medical conditions, we understand that you will try your best to follow the above rules as your medical situation allows. We understand that you will do your best to keep a clean and enjoyable environment for all at TOMKAT by discreetly taking care of your situation.
11. Medical
TOMKAT will be following all current rules and regulations for West Nipissing, Ontario, and Canada at the time of the event.
Any attendee becoming ill may be asked to move to a private tenting area (provided by TOMKAT), to avoid the spread of any virus. Meals will continue to be provided by being delivered to that area.
Inform TOMKAT as soon as possible of any medical issues or injuries that occur at camp.
Should medical assistance be called, please inform TOMKAT prior to their arrival